Following for Too Long

Leadership, is vital if you are trying to be someone important. You have to be able to control your group and do it well. I think I am ready.

My father did his best to make sure my brothers and I would be well-rounded men. He taught us before we lead, we must listen, analyze and follow. I think I got all three down pretty good.

Since manufacturing has been my expertise, I usually take what I have learned from businesses and apply them to my daily life. The eight business waste are:
• Unused Creativity/Capability
• Defects
• Inventory
• Over Production
• Waiting
• Excess Motion
• Transportation
• Over Processing

I gave you the secrets. You’re welcome.

How does someone become a leader? Most of them take extra steps, right? When I start working at a new place I take the extra step and point out things that are hurting the company and how to fix it. I hear all the time, “Do not to say anything because managers do not like to hear about what is wrong.”

That is true. I mean, everyone has roses but not many would lean to smell them. But generally, how do supervisors get in these positions? Because they take the extra step to improve a function, therefore, saving the company, thus, the company would invest in that person to stay.

I was recently on an interview with a job I had no interest in and for the first time I was over-qualified for this position. I couldn’t believe it, myself. The job didn’t pa much but I am in a bad spot for money so I was open to it.

The lady who interviewed my had a weird, why-did-he-apply look on her face. She said, “It seems like this isn’t a good fit for you. You seem over-qualified for this position. Would you consider being in a leadership position?”

On an interview, you tell them what they want to hear, so I told her, “yes.” But I had something on the brain when I left.

It never crossed my mind that I would be able to be a supervisor. The signs were always there but I never put the puzzle together. When I am seasoned employee on a site, I always introduce myself and friend newcomers. Even older and veteran employees would ask my opinion on things and they would consider them as real knowledge.

If the offer is on the table and the money sounds ok I will take the job on any shift, even graveyard. It is not because I like to run people that I will take the job.
Personally, I hate micro-management and feel you should be able to do your job without anyone hovering.

Other evidence started to surface. I am an instructor to a workshop for high school students and would coach adolescents in my father’s boxing gym and basketball team. I used to assist coaching gymnastics for girls and boys so I been around children enough to know how to handle damage control.

All of these experiences got me to this point and it is like unused talent. No, it is unused talent.

If nothing else, the possibility of a leadership position will open more doors of opportunity and to no longer be a worker bee. The last job that let me go was a blessing because I saw people working really fast to make numbers and I know they will never surpass a entry level position. Hard work is for the gym.

Goodbye and so long to my old self and standards.

Real Man Moments 12-15-11

I think it is time we reinvent the urinal. The urinal is what most guys like to use when using the bathroom. I hope I don’t see a woman use one but… to each is his or her own is beautiful, right?

As a man I wake every morning at my toilet and although accuracy is the best policy, I tend to hit the rim and other days I don’t bother I just sit down without risking it. Actually sitting down is more relaxing.

Anyway, I don’t care what age you are guys but there has been at least one time you have been at the urinal and it either splashes on you shirt or damn near on your face. I wonder which one of my fellow brethren thought this was a good idea?

I think the only way it should be reformed is to put it in a cone shaped design always aiming down. No splashes I bet. And this leads me into my other segment, PARTY FOULS.

A PARTY FOUL is something my best friend came up with. While most men would think all fouls are gay but they are not. It is simply a rule any man (gay or straight) should not do. Period.

Let me give an example of a party foul in a public restroom. There are three open, vacant urinals and let’s even say you are the only person in the restroom, you occupy a urinal. A random guy approaches and uses the urinal RIGHT NEXT TO YOU.

Some people call them unwritten man rules but I call them party fouls. I also think it is nasty to pick your nose or put one hand on the wall. I was taught to use two hands anyway like my father taught me. He always said, “Hold it with both hands, son, the world can take everything from you but make sure it doesn’t take that.”

He was so right.

A Man Who Loves to be Married

My Wife and I tied the knot on June 18, 2011. Even after six months it’s amazing that a husband can remember the day he married the best person in the world. I say, “person” because I respect hetero and homosexual relationships, even though I prefer women, of course.

I met my wife during a minority journalism workshop in high school as we both desired to be journalist. She sat next to me and at that moment I knew I was going to have a friend that year.

I analyze everyone at all times...well...when I am paying attention but I paid attention to her all day.

While we waited to get our instructions I noticed she had on one glove. I looked around to see if she had misplaced it around our desks so that I can retrieve it, being the gentleman I trained myself to be.

When I could not find it, this single and lonely glove confused me. I needed to crack this case and so I began the most important interview of my life.

I said, ”Why do you have on one glove.” She acted as if it was normal and looked down trying to recognize what I thought was a problem. She replied, “Because one hand is cold.”

While I processed and asked my question as a mystery, she answered the question as if it were a math question. You know, one multiplied by one equals a satisfied hand.
Whatever the equation was, the solution was to marry this girl.

I have been with her for seven years and it has been the best seven years of my life. Trust me, I have gone through life’s issues but it has been the best experiences because she was there for me. Although religious folk will not agree with us we have co-habitated years before marriage. I do believe in God and Jesus Christ but no church claims me. I have my reasons.

Since I we been living together I noticed that she does things that annoy me. I love her enough not to embarrass her so I will make up something. Something that would annoy me would be to leave a wet towel on the floor. If I came home and walked into the bathroom and noticed it I would either hang it up or throw it in the hamper.

Things like wet towels shouldn’t make or break a relationship so I tend to not worry. If becomes a problem then I would sit down and talk with her about it instead of yelling or waiting for an argument to lash out. Because I love her I don’t do that.

My wife has been my everything for the last eight years of our relationship and my love is no what Edward and Bella have on TV. Bella never had to pay personal property tax while vampire Edward has to work two jobs to pay the bills. Also, I never seen a guy yelling in the streets claiming his complicated (I’m going to make a fool of myself because this is the end of the movie but start to a happy ending) love for a girl where the whole street and sidewalk applauds and does a Slumdog Millionaire Bollywood dance number about love.

This is the real world folks, this is what I call love:

Love doesn’t pay the bills nor does it solve issues like finding a job, family issues or self-esteem issues. When my brother married his wife during his senior year and no one particular was on his side he said, “That’s OK. Because we got love!” Love is a good chunk of a marriage and but there are logistics that people do not consider.
When you take responsibility for someone’s life you have to treat it like a business. You and your spouse are CEOs of your marriage. You consider the risks, collateral, expansion (babies), and opportunity but there is one thing you never want to do is find a merger. You never want someone else trying to get into your marriage. Everyone will try and push their way in but you never let them in. Mothers, fathers, siblings, friends and co-workers can come and visit but they can never be a shareholder. And if all else fails you tell them, “Mind your own business.”

Maybe this is a monologue, but it is coming to an end. I was never a guy for strip clubs or stag parties. I really don’t believe a woman looks good being easy or dressing slutty for anything. I prefer women of success or a woman with a dream to succeed. I don’t believe a woman should OBEY but to reach a compromise to any relationship. I believe the best thing a man can do is earn a woman’s respect and trust without financial or physical force. I understand that there are men whom acted a certain way, but some things need to change for the sake of our existence.

Because I am not the average male or “wuss” or any sort, I believe I was born to be a good husband. At the end of the day, I want to be at home with my wife on the couch and holding a good conversation with kisses in between.